I’d say if you’re just trying to get a casual lay, then you need to hone your skills at the classic dance-club style pickup. Your personality and approach will win you points if you have somebody to show you the ropes - because the girls out dancing will never have seen a guy like you before. And you’ll gain much-needed experience about quickly reading signals and sizing up opportunities, and rapidly overcoming rejection.

If you’re looking for something beyond the make-out session, I like JK’s idea again of starting some kind of discussion group or something. I know Jeremy has some interest in doing this as well - getting together a group of people to talk about like religion, and whatever else comes up. If you pitch this right and make it inviting, the majority of the people interested will likely be girls. And if nobody in your group is suitable, you simply network. Friends of friends are always better than (1) internet strangers, (2) club sluts, etc.

Maybe I’ve just been watching a lot of Twin Peaks lately, but there’s a line that I think applies to your situation. When Hawk talks about how if you face the Black Lodge with imperfect courage, you’ll be annihilated. Of course girls are rejecting you - you’re asking them out on the internet for chrissakes!

Anyway, I hope none of this came off as too harsh. It’s just advice coming from somebody who’s been in the same situation.

Can you add an edit function so I don’t have to look at my stupid grammar and punctuation mistakes?

Garrett- don’t you recognize that you have had more beautiful, smart, and funny girlfriends than any other guy -at least when you lived in Arcata?

Need I drop names? Erin? Stephanie? That cute girl from the ’stupid kids’ band? (did I get their name right?)

Ah, you’ve got a lot of things going for you-obviously. Besides, those girls that you documented that turned you down probably don’t enough going for them to keep you interested.

You aren’t being shallow by just going for the pretty ones, though?

Maybe there’s a nice girl with a mashed face picture out on craigslist you ignored?

Perhaps craigslists’ numbers of funny, good looking and smart women is on the decline.

Well, good luck playing the field. Or… Were you hoping to find a girl to pop a couple kids out for you?

Miss you, Garrett. By the way, your mom’s comments are great. You’re lucky to have your parents!

-Rachel

But otherwise, yeah I think you’re right kylark - I guess I was just upset by the fact that my jpegs had been turned down. She read what I wrote and found it suitable enough, but then we she got to my little pixelated squares I was no longer worth getting to know.
I know that my only chance really is to meet someone in person and actually interact with them - I’m pretty good at that. But I have 1) a serious addiction to the internet 2) a job that offers little socializing (only on my breaks) - so I never find myself in the right situation to meet people. So back to square one.

I think I’m just going to have to bite the bullet and get some “Glamour Shots” and toss away these pictures I’ve been sending of my face smashed against the scanner.

Garrett

That said, if I were in this situation and an interesting, smart guy wrote me, I’d probably go out with him even if I wasn’t intrigued by his photo, because 1) pictures can lie (they can’t convey sense of smell, for example), and 2) the person might turn out to be a good friend.

“you might just be a little bit more advanced in things like me..”? I’d say that’s a resounding yes.

Also, Landon: alive? zombie? cult leader? I owe you a call, amigo.